On Facing Your Fears

There is a steady beat on the drum of fear within our society.

It’s apparent in the news, in conversations, in the collective at large and in our own hearts.

It is when we choose to face our fears that healing and expansion can occur.

I see this in the online world, in the lives of my colleagues, friends and clients, on my journey and in my own family. On a daily basis I watch one of my children face her fears. Sometimes she jumps head first in her commitment and other times it is a soft lead with resistance and wailing.

But, she is loyal in her commitment to facing them and to finding the strength inside to overcome them. It’s exhausting as her Mama at times but it’s also nothing short of inspiring to see her put herself out there, sometimes when she doesn’t even realize it, and face her fear head on.

When dealing with my own fears I have learned from her and from my professional coach training how to observe myself and ask, what is it I am truly afraid of? What is this fear bringing up for me? How can facing my fear open myself up?

When I ask myself these questions, it allows my fear to step out of the driver’s seat so I can reclaim my power. For fear has something to teach us just as emptiness does. You need the dark to know the light.

What is it you are afraid of?

How would facing your fear shift your decision(s) and your life?

When we boldly look into the mirror that fear is holding up for us and gaze into its reflection, we move from a state of victim-hood into leadership.

I believe there is expansion and growth on the other side of facing our fear. It may take all of our courage (and some “borrowed” courage as well) to muster up the energy to face our fear, but what happens when we do is always some type of shift, an opening that allows you to transmute the fear.

Then, you walk deeper onto your path, into your sovereignty and lead from a place of compassion and inner strength.

So, my dear, I offer you a challenge this week: Spend some time with your fear.

You may have heard of “Money Dates” or “Creativity Dates.” This week I want you to have a “Fear Date.”

Take some time, even if only for 10 minutes, to sit quietly or take a walk alone in nature. You may want to have a journal or notebook handy. Ask your Higher Self or Soul to guide you in this process.

–> Go for a walk or sit quietly where you won’t be interrupted.

–> Take a few moments to clear your head, emptying out all thoughts and distractions.

–> Ask your fear to come forth to be present in your heart.

–> Sit with your fear. Really feel it in your body. You want to feel it and be uncomfortable so you know it’s present.

–> When you’re ready, ask your fear: What are you trying to show me?

–> What do I need to know right now?

–> How can I shift my perspective to move through the fear into the possibility?

–> What do I need in order to support this?

Take the time to journal or jot down a few notes during or after this exercise.

Then, comment below or email me and share what came up for you as you faced your fear and asked her these questions. I’d love to honor you for taking this time for yourself and hear how you rose to this challenge.

Sending you much love… for what is on the other side of fear?

L.O.V.E.
(always)